Reducing Our Toxic Emotion Footprint

In order to reduce stressful emotional outbursts, it’s wise to learn that not everything warrants a reaction. The practice of non-reaction can be tricky, but once I learned how to harness my reactions and acknowledge without tying emotion to the acknowledgment, the power of this trick became clear. We have a lot of choices to make every day, and maybe a few of them can be choosing not to react in order to reduce the amount of negativity swirling around in the air. 

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Love Tanks - As Demonstrated by Sli the Cat

Love Tanks - As Demonstrated by Sli the Cat

Everyone has a love tank. When we are in a committed relationship, our words, actions, behaviors, and energy either fill up or deplete our partner’s love tank. When our love tank is full we feel loved, desired, cherished, respected and, in turn, feel more loving towards our partner. When our love tank is empty we may question our relationship, turn our focus towards our partner’s negative attributes, and lose sight of that spark of magic that made us fall in love with our partner way back when.

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Practicing Self-Love

Practicing Self-Love

Though philautia can certainly take a turn towards narcissism (or, if your mind is in the gutter, autoeroticism), the positive side of self-love is actually the home base for the rest of the five types of love. Without love for ourselves, we have a very hard time giving love to others. If you require a more trustworthy resource, Aristotle once said, “all friendly feelings for others are an extension of man’s feelings for himself.” So there you have it – our journey to be better friends, better partners, and better citizens of the world, begins with our love for ourselves.

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